Zoe Girl
5-24-11, 10:06pm
Okay the reason it may be working is not the best but whatever makes things that need to happen, happen is good.
My kids are really struggling and I have done my best to support it this year and I am so exhausted it isn't funny. So after finding out my son was failing his classes at the special audition admission only school for the arts (remember the movie Fame) and my daughter has been lying to me for months about attending her college class and doing her on-line work (which means we have to now pay the tuition for the class that would have been free) and my oldest overcharging the phone bill AGAIN, I decided that I am sending them all to stay with dad for a month. That is that. I talked it over with my counselor, the dates are working out for me, boyfriend is working on himself which is fine (he is being a suportive friend) and even my mother, gasp!!!!, seems to understand.
The plan is that when I am only working 20 hours a week plus my weekend job I will take a month and work, meditate and write. I will not be primary parent but will do regular dinner nights and be there for special stuff. The kids will not stay with me overnight for the month or drop in whenever they feel like it or call me when something is inconvenient. After 7 years of being primary caregiver as a single mom one month sounds golden. I don't even care if I nap the whole time!
I am looking up additional meditation times and centers for support, I need to tell 2 out of 3 kids (the one is really pissed at me, he has not attended school a full week all year long and has pushed not going to the point I took him into the ER for a psych eval at one point, the whole 9 months with medical and psychiatric treatment). There is a real chance one kid will be a runaway to boyfriends for a month, she has been verbally abusive and on the edge of physical for a long time. I finally got her to see a counselor but her process has been 2 years at this point. I am also doing all their counseling along with regular dinner nights, may not seem like a retreat to people without kids but it is to me.
Now I have to work on my dharma talk for our buddhist service at the UU church in July.
My kids are really struggling and I have done my best to support it this year and I am so exhausted it isn't funny. So after finding out my son was failing his classes at the special audition admission only school for the arts (remember the movie Fame) and my daughter has been lying to me for months about attending her college class and doing her on-line work (which means we have to now pay the tuition for the class that would have been free) and my oldest overcharging the phone bill AGAIN, I decided that I am sending them all to stay with dad for a month. That is that. I talked it over with my counselor, the dates are working out for me, boyfriend is working on himself which is fine (he is being a suportive friend) and even my mother, gasp!!!!, seems to understand.
The plan is that when I am only working 20 hours a week plus my weekend job I will take a month and work, meditate and write. I will not be primary parent but will do regular dinner nights and be there for special stuff. The kids will not stay with me overnight for the month or drop in whenever they feel like it or call me when something is inconvenient. After 7 years of being primary caregiver as a single mom one month sounds golden. I don't even care if I nap the whole time!
I am looking up additional meditation times and centers for support, I need to tell 2 out of 3 kids (the one is really pissed at me, he has not attended school a full week all year long and has pushed not going to the point I took him into the ER for a psych eval at one point, the whole 9 months with medical and psychiatric treatment). There is a real chance one kid will be a runaway to boyfriends for a month, she has been verbally abusive and on the edge of physical for a long time. I finally got her to see a counselor but her process has been 2 years at this point. I am also doing all their counseling along with regular dinner nights, may not seem like a retreat to people without kids but it is to me.
Now I have to work on my dharma talk for our buddhist service at the UU church in July.