View Full Version : My control-freak boss

9-21-11, 10:57am
Basically, they now have me working two jobs at the same agency. Two days a week I have a micro-caseload of six people, a reduced version of the job I was doing before. The other two days I'm now at the agency's drop-in center. For the most part I really like it - it's carefully crafted to be a laid-back environment for people to hang out. We offer some basic life-skills classes and fun stuff like yoga and poetry.

But there are two huge problems. The first is that my two job descriptions are polar opposites. With the first I craft my own schedule, and I have to leave open spaces every day for the inevitable crises that come up when serving this kind of community. As such, I can and must take things as they come. The other job runs on a rigid schedule. There are some good reasons for this, and I accept it.

The problem is Job 2 boss at the drop-in center. When real life intrudes at Job 1 she takes it very personally. One day one of my clients went to the ER the night before and I had to call her at home to check in with her. Big ordeal. She wouldn't let me step away to hand my time card over to the HR person. Finally yesterday it escalated to her giving me a verbal warning because I stole away for half a protein bar when I had "only" been on the clock for 40 minutes, and it was another hour until my lunch break!! >8) (And yes, I've told her several times that I'm hypoglycemic, and what that means in terms of when and how I have to eat. Boss 1 has known this for several months.)

Worse yet, she's released me early involuntarily a few times, and both supervisors have told me I'm not allowed to catch up on Job 1 when that happens. I'm also forbidden to work any overtime.

Yesterday I very nearly quit on the spot. I explained the situation (hypoglycemia, more staffers in the center than clients at that particular moment, I told my coworkers where I was going,) and she basically came back with a nuh-uh!! regardless of what I said. She then scolded me for actually doing some things she had asked me to do, but assumed I hadn't because she was out of the room herself and didn't physically catch me in the act of doing them when she came back. I very nearly quit on the spot. The main thing that stopped me was that I've only been here six months and I don't want my resume to look like I'm a job-hopper.

I'd like to find an amicable solution, but she's pushing me to the wall. I'm not floating any resumes yet but I'm dusting off the ol' network. The national healthcare revamp is a godsend for my field because my job description is highly cost-effective. Every agency in the state will scramble to recruit us over the next year or so, and I've put myself in a position to rub elbows with lots of CEOs on committees. But job hunting and starting over is a royal pain, and I have clients who've come to depend on me.

Thankfully I have a routine meeting with Boss 1 next week and she always asks me to craft the agenda. No question this time!

9-21-11, 7:11pm
If you're being prevented from treating your ***medical condition*** of hypoglycemia, that's a huge HR issue right there, and one that could get Boss 2 into serious trouble. I get that you wouldn't want to stir anything up, but this could get dangerous. Is there any way you could get some documentation of the hypoglycemia from a doctor?

Zoe Girl
9-21-11, 7:58pm
I would say one peice is document, document, and more document. Show that you are doing what you need to, when job #1 has an urgent need and that job #2 was staffed well.
Do you have any supervisory level above her that could facilitate a meeting where you could work out a solution and air your side of the story? I have a meeting coming up friday with my 'problem child' and a whole bunch of people. I actually did not ask for it but my supervisor saw the need based a few recent emails she sent and cc'd everyone at the supervisory level about a non-issue that made us look bad until it was explained. Grr, I was NOT happy. I am glad my supervisor is seeing things in a similar way.

9-22-11, 4:37am
How did you end up in this situation where you are doing two jobs with such different expectations and supervisors that are not sensitive to your need to find a way to make them work (with each other and with your health issues)? Was this something you went looking for or something that was forced on you/something the supervisors went looking for or something that was forced on them? A better understanding of the context might help us advise you better.

I personally would not be inclined to stay in a position where the manager was so rigid and unaccomodating. I understand the need for structure and limits, especially within a relatively unstructured environment. But what you describe seems a bit over the top. Would not surprise me at all if you had been asked to step in because they can't keep people. No one likes to be disrespected and micro-managed.


9-22-11, 1:16pm
Yuck. Good luck. I hope you can get some support...