Originally Posted by
Chicken lady
She is very supportive of me clearing out my space. She is proud of me for the progress I am making. But there are a couple of factors around the drum.
very few "things" are important to her.
she sees it as something to be "here" - a part of her childhood she would want to share with her kids.
she would probably be willing to take the drum and schlep it back and forth to create that experience, but I don't want to push that
because
my son in law is also a hoarder and he is farther behind in the struggle and when I send things to her house it increases his stress and their conflict and I understand where he is on his journey and I want to help and support them.
i may take her up on her offer to take the bins though - they are plastic bins with plastic washable toys that she could store in her basement which has some problems with dampness (although she bought a dehumidifier yesterday). A deer hide drum, not so much.