Originally Posted by
catherine
Hmmm.. so to what do you attribute that disconnect? She seems to be quite happy; you clearly are at least questioning. How did you leave it?
On the topic of The Atlantic article, that was very interesting, and I've observed similar patterns in my own kids' lives. My DD is rudderless in relationships--she just goes from one to the other, and maybe two at the same time (with mutual consent) and none of the guys have checked off all the boxes for a life partner. Nobody has made her fall head over heels. She's dated artists, drummers, journalists, architects, linguists, tattoo artists, and DJs. I must say, they are the ones who are thinking 'life partner' with her, but she'll have none of it.
Is it realistic to assume that all the boxes have to be checked? At 32, she has expressed that MAYBE it's time to start thinking about a life partner. Her best friend, a single mother, has convinced her that being a parent is not all it's cracked up to be, so she may decide kids are not for her. Even with this latest BF that I referred to in another post, she's already getting a little tired of commuting 4 hours to see him and she's going to go on a little break, although she says "He'd see me every weekend if I let him."
I don't judge her at all. She's living a life of her own choosing and I applaud her for that. But I'm amazed at how the woman's movement my generation kicked off has caused tidal shifts in womens' approach to relationships.
Thanks for sharing the article. I may send it to her, just for a springboard for discussion. I think she'd find a lot of common ground with the author.