So, coincidentally, I was reminded of this Gabor Mate TED Talk via a post in my Facebook feed this morning. I love Gabor Mate--he's the author of In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, which was actually recommended to me by someone in this forum.
He basically says the same thing as the HuffPo author--he quotes R.D. Laing: "The three things people fear most are death, other people, and their own minds."
Yes, he talks about the emptiness inside that is the root cause of addiction: but as I've read in his other work, that emptiness sometimes is a result of faulty early childhood wiring. His thoughts about the impact of mother's stress and environmental stresses on fetuses and young infants are fascinating (he only touches on that in this video, but he's talked about it elsewhere). So, maybe what I'm bristling against here is the question: how much can our unconditional love heal these deep systemic emotional disorders?