so i am ready to kinda talk about this. my daughter called me pretty much as soon as i was home and in bed from my retreat and said she wanted to come home because she needed to go to rehab. She came home that night and stayed about a week. we decided that she was probably better with support and not necessarily a rehab center. She was pretty sick for awhile, i had just returned from the retreat and didn't have as much time as i really wanted to be home with her. over the weekend we both felt moderately sick and just were lazy around the house. then this monday she suddenly moved back to her apartment with her boyfriend. i was rushing home to make her dinner and then take her or loan her the car to go to an AA meeting. it sounds like he took her, i am checking in daily. Honestly i am very concerned about her keeping up with not drinking with being back living with him. i told her to come over this weekend and stay or stay during the day so she is not home alone or with roommates that are stressful the entire time. i have a no-alcohol home which helps i think.
So that is what is going on, lots of worry, lots of wanting to tell her what to do, and despite feeling pretty good about my mom skills still having some guilt here. i do tell her things she needs to do however pretty much all my kids have a highly developed sense of passive aggressive. Above and beyond the regular teen/young adult range as i have seen. all my kids have refused all teams, clubs, church groups, etc. vehemently. So i am very concerned she is not going to get to AA groups. for that reason i am thinking we need to work more with a counselor than a group,