Hi everyone!
I haven't been on for a while, I hope everyone has been well. I've been musing on a simple living dilemma for a while and wanted to open it up to discussion. I thought I would post this out there in hopes of gaining some clarity, which will hopefully lead to some action.
Dh and I both grew up very, very poor and we've had to make our own way in the world. So we naturally lean towards frugality and try to live by the "waste not, want not" philosophy. But we also find that we prefer a clean, uncluttered environment without things weighing us down. The problem is that our frugal self recoils at the thought of discarding perfectly good things that we no longer use or need! "What a huge waste!" we think (because we would basically be giving it away after paying good money for it by donating it, as neither one of us wants to go through the trouble of selling it, and it's not very valuable stuff to begin with). "A big waste of money, resources, etc..." (because we worked hard to earn the money that bought those things.) Those are the thoughts going through our brains, we panic, and put the stuff back where it was.
And then of course, the stuff begins to weigh on us emotionally. I'm not sure why that it is, because we do have the storage space for it, and we don't have tons of stuff, but it affects me especially strongly. Having a lot of stuff around makes me feel claustrophobic. It's like the stuff sucks energy out of me. I feel burdened and depressed by it.
Here is my question:
For those of you who seek to have a simple and uncluttered life, while being frugal and wise with your money, how do you balance the struggle between holding on to things and letting them go?
I'm thinking along the lines of setting a clear guideline of usage criteria. Something like, things that haven't been used in at least a year go out. I think at some point, for us at least, there is an emotional cost to keeping things we no longer use or need. I'm trying to see that emotional cost as tangible and real to help with the process. Emotional cost affects quality of life.
I would love to hear what some of you have done to address this issue.