I am having a pretty strong reaction like Kib but in the other direction. I have spent so much time in my life trying to prove something because I do all these tasks. honestly when my kids were young I loved doing a lot of cooking, the cleaning went with it. I kept a strict budget and did most of my own tasks in many ways. I wasn't in a great marriage so there was not a give and take of life tasks, basically I say that I know how to do everything myself because I was married for a long time (and I hope that is not anyone else's experience). I even have the background of getting all zen like about everyday tasks so I do not judge washing dishes as less than doing another task. I am just tired, and I want to spend my energy other ways, and I see how women (and men) in my parents generation and older either find comfort in doing all these tasks or are burdened by having spent so many years on the same things. My reaction that is negative however is that I am ready to let some of these things go, not need to do it all myself, and then I feel the strong judgment. It taps into the feeling that as a woman I need to earn a living, have a career not a job, raise great kids, keep my fridge clean, cook healthy meals, take care of all the paperwork to support everything, and continually prove myself to avoid judgment.
So kib maybe you and I both need to find our middle chill point and learn a little from the other side. I actually am relaxing just talking about it, and remember, we don't have to do ANY of this if we don't want to so it is just paying a lot of attention to other people's choices.