does Mr Ahn have a brother? lol. And actually what you are doing does address real world issues. Imagine if everyone obtained the peace that you do. We'd live in a much better place.
I don't know if this would help you but it does seem like work stress is impacting you home stress. When I did hospice, it was really hard sometimes to drive home from an incredibly devastating situation and walk in the door and be "Mom". So I'd park in a park and just process what I saw that day, sometimes cry and then once I got in my driveway, I would not go in until I could be mom. Sometimes I sat a while in my driveway but my rule for myself was once I walk through my door that is my family's sacred space and I am obligated to keep it that way. I wasn't perfect, sometimes I'd see my kids, I'd be so grateful they weren't about to lose their mom or dad, that I would hug them and cry. And that was ok because I could turn it into a teachable moment. But if I did not at least try really hard to leave work at work as much as possible, I would not be able to continue that job. Then when I went to bed, I said a little prayer of intention for each patient and did whatever I had to, to not dwell all night.
maybe some rituals would help you.
Another ritual had a less spiritual bent and was my ex-husband's fav. When I was doing regular home care at the homeless shelter, and really bad bug infested homes, I took off all my clothes in the garage and bagged my clothes up. A couple of times my dad would be there and I missed seeing his car and he'd be appalled, "why are you half-naked? What kind of "job" is this? Jesus Christ, i raised you better than this!" I would get dressed and explain, well, this homeless diabetic guy who never took care of his diabetes (this could be you, DAD!) is slowly losing pieces of his gangrenous foot. Since he lives in the park, he sits in the back of my car so I can dress his wounds. Sometimes a dead toe lands on my pants. Would you like to see? It's right in the garage, no problem." He'd start gagging and laughing, but suggested keeping a change of clothes in the garage. End of ex liking that ritual, lol.
but seriously, try to somehow find a way to get this stuff out of your head 24/7. Do you have a bunch of things that comfort you or make you laugh? Maybe come home, give yourself a break for a while and watch Arrested Development on Netflix til your eyes roll back. Read an absorbing book. Is it hard to do things with friends right now? If not, maybe go out for a drink or a movie. Does your job have an EAP program? You can get free, confidential sessions with a counselor. And they can get a bead on if you are depressed and in need of help. I could be wrong but it sounds like you are still bashing yourself for the past, which probably seems horrible to you, but that's done, your employer has probably dealt with hundreds of more issues since that and isn't thinking about you as much you YOU are thinking about you. Like we said before, there is something to be said to keeping your head down and just doing what you have to do. If you are on an improvement plan, they should be telling you if you are headed in the right direction. And if management continues to barrage you, maybe just start looking at other job opportunities. Knowing what's out there, can make you feel better about where you are!