Originally Posted by
Chicken lady
My parents are boomers. My kids are millennials.
i agree with "ask".
Some things I also think you should keep. When my grandmother died three years ago, nobody wanted my great great grandmothers formal dishes. They were beautiful, and I loved them, but I have formal dishes I hardly use in a style my dh likes. My mother loved them, but she has dishes, my cousin hated the style and my sister in law doesn't want formal dishes, etc.
my youngest niece is 6. My mother said "I'll put them in the attic. I'm sorry, but if I die and no one still wants them, you'll have to give them away."
fast forward. Dd is getting married. He cooks, they entertain. He wanted formal dishes. She texted mom "please send photo of china". He loves it.
now I keep having the following conversation with my mother
mom- "I want to give the kids something nice for their wedding."
me "how about a full set of heirloom fancy china?"
Mom "well of course I'm giving them that, but I want to buy them something"
me "they need sheets."
mom "but I want to give them something that will last"
me "how about a full set.....
sigh.