I think you all know my brother is getting married in 2 weeks in his fiancee's parents B&B. It is small so the wedding guest list was only 25 people per side. Unless you were married, there were no plus ones. It is 3 hrs away. Ex did not feel comfortable with Adam driving up Sat, staying over and driving home Sunday. So he is driving them home that same night, I have no clue what he will do while the wedding is going but this was his choice.
Adam has asked me to bring his "GF", a girl he pursued heavily. Turns out she is a lesbian and they are best friends. Has known her 6 mos maybe. I asked my brother 3 times, and he ignored the question. Fine, GF not going, both kids are. Let me preface this by saying, neither child is super-excited to go to begin with. But I have explained this is the last big family gathering before their grandmother likely dies. We all want pictures of the family together one last time. I ask them to give up one night of their lives for their grandmother, she would be very upset if one of her two only grandchildren weren't there. So it seemed settled.
DD is at an overnight after prom and texts me at 5am that she is not going, the lesbian GF is instead. I am so disappointed in how my kids behave with family, they were not raised this way. I plan to ask my brother to squeeze the GF in and I will pay for her and hopefully he will do that. If not how do I get my kids to go without her and just do it out of the goodness of their hearts? You all have such different perspectives, I would appreciate any input.