I am trying really hard, because I know I have talked about M before, but I just can't stand her and her issues. She is the one I have probably shared about before, she takes up too much space in meetings ALL the time, can't seem to understand things so keeps asking the same questions, is extremely negative, and then offers that she has ADD or depression. I am not thinking that is BS, and that is really unusual for me to say that. I have avoided her over summer since I can't attend many meetings, and today I just heard the story of her annual review (so private I can't think about breathing a work with real life people). She got a 3 (scale of 1-5), now she has a supervisor who is brand new to our department so she escalated her complaining with him until he took her to the head of the department and she proved her case and got increased to a 4. Who knew you could do that? Even with my very low score I never thought about taking it and arguing it to the head of the department. EVERY meeting she takes up too much space, expresses negativity publicly and privately, I can't even sit next to her anymore because I keep on having to tell her I am trying to listen to the speaker (but she still finds a way to sit with me), a few co-workers have snapped at her in meetings, she refuses to participate when we have group team builders (they are corny but that is part of what we do). She got so frustrated one time she threw markers across the table at me. I feel bad for the new guy, the next day she openly said that she does not care about the big district vision plan, it didn't interest her. Part of the score includes being part of a team, tying your site goals into the district vision and being able to show data that supports this. So where does that leave all of us who manage ourselves positively on a team! Suckers really, I know I couldn't act like that for even one meeting.
I am happy with my evaluation and my work this year, that is not the issue. I think this will make her even worse and I have no game face left with her. I find myself coping by reading about mental illness and diagnosing her and making up little stories with her as a villain. I have always known there are problem people at work or other places, I just didn't expect her to be around 6 years later and getting worse. Yeah, my naivety. I did tell my one coworker that I share with that the only thing left is for her to be promoted, and we will start a mosh pit right in the department meeting announcement. On a serious note I have never complained about her because everyone knows but I need to tell my supervisor because I feel sitting next to her is bad for my career, and I may have to take an extra bathroom break on a bad day.
Thank you for letting me share, and if you have any little meeting tips for horrible people I would love to hear them. I can doodle or make up stories, but I can't really put in headphones when she starts to speak.