I love these stories.. seems like having Depression-era parents shaped attitudes for sure.
This is such a broad, broad question: What is money to begin with. You're right--what do kids know or care about money. To a child, as long as needs are being met, money is an illusion. In fact there are many people who believe that money IS an illusion--Charles Eisenstein for one. This would be a whole discussion in itself, but there is a huge part of me that falls in that camp, mainly because it seems unnatural. "The birds of the air neither sow nor reap" We are the only species that has come up with this construct, and what started out as a tool to streamline human transactions has become the focus of our lives all too often.This chapter made me wonder how/when it happens that we teach children with their blank slate minds about the whole concept of money. Any parent will recall their toddler watching us purchase something and then trying to imitate that in some way.
Your comment on toddlers made me think of when I was in St. Louis with my kids for 3 months shooting a movie. They put us up in Union Station, which is now a mall/hotel. So I'd look out of my hotel window and see stores. My kids were 6 and 7 at the time--talk about the "kid in the candy store"! I needed some way to rein them in, so I gave them a $5/week allowance. It was an interesting experiment. My son spent his IMMEDIATELY and then asked for advances. My DD on the other hand had spotted a Little Mermaid pencil case in the Disney Store on Day 1 of the allowance. It was $30. She saved every $5 bill I gave her, and six weeks later, I took her to the store to buy the pencil case.
So she took it off the rack.. but then stopped. She opened her wallet, looked at the $5 bills, looked at the pencil case, and put it back. She never bought it. She brought the money home with her. Seeing my kids act the way they did makes me think that a lot of our patterns are hardwired.
I think it is hard for people who have vastly different attitudes towards money to stay married. It seems like a daily conflict of values.The one time that money caused major problems was when I was married to my ex-husband as we were so different.
Wow, those were the days--NOT! Glad it worked out for your mom.As a weird aside, my mother prided herself on not ever knowing how much money my father made.
Great way to put it. I have to think about how I would finish that sentence. How about the rest of you?Insert your thoughts, Money is ____________________
For me, my thought was a tool of opportunity. It has a value as a medium to allow you to do things that you might not otherwise get to, or want to. Yet it can't really provide security