my dad is in the hospital and is likely going for 20 days of inpatient rehab upon discharge. My mother, who has an end stage disease, is very dependent on him. She's acting out in ways that are making me crazy. She lives on this certain brand and only 2 flavors of a hard to find yogurt. Friday I could not find any anywhere so I ordered 2 cases. She is hysterical that the yogurt isn't in yet even though they said it would be Weds with the holiday. So she says she's just not going to eat, like a 3 yr old would say. I am bending over backwards to make sure she eats but all the hours I am at the hospital, where I am needed, she doesn't eat. She's perfectly capable of getting say a bowl of cereal. UGH!
so she is stressed so the hoard is invading my territory and it's making me nuts. At Christmas, she had the cleaning lady bring up box after box of ancient decorations that she then never looked at and decided to store all the boxes in my DD's room. Now I had just sold her desk to make room to finally bring up the treadmill, which my cardiologist has been urging me to do for a year. The cleaning lady's DH was going to bring it up for me on Weds and I was going to drag the Christmas boxes out to the LR, let my mother see her hoarding, not hide it in a room she can't even get to. My mother has been against me bringing up the treadmill because it will make the room "ugly", even though it's one you can fold up when not in use.
With my dad going to rehab, last night we had to check his closet for sweatpants. She ended up having me remove every article of clothing and put it on the floor. His clothes are so old that he has the sweatshirt from when we toured my alma mater, I am now 46. He has every size from M to XXL. I called him and he said get rid of anything not in style and keep just the 2 largest sizes. My mom feels he should look at every piece and we not do anything until after he gets home from rehab. I told her if she refused to let me bag up at least the M and L sized clothes, I would not be helping with this closet. He hasn't been in those sizes for 2 decades. Nope, she would not agree. So today she has the cleaning lady come over, box up all the clothes and add them to her mess in DD's room. Now you can't even walk in there. I am so angry and can't believe she is picking now of all times to tackle this stupid closet. We never did find sweatpants, lol. I know she is old and sick but she knows exactly what she is doing with the hoarding issue. She knows how badly I wanted that treadmill upstairs. I don't know what I am going to do exactly but this is not staying like this for the 20 days my dad will be in rehab. I am DONE. Hoarding sucks. Sorry that was so long.