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    how would you handle this?

    I met a gentleman from Texas online, he's 56, retired, well-groomed, funny and respectful. But he's pushing to come up here (I'm in NY) the weekend after this one. I would have him get a car from the airport and get a hotel and then meet him for dinner driving my own car there. Even with those safeguards, I just don't know. I do not want to feel like I have to be intimate with him because he flew here. Has anyone dealt with situations like this?

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    it seems sketchy since Ive only been on the site three days. That's kind of moving fast, doncha think?

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    Quote Originally Posted by freshstart View Post
    it seems sketchy since Ive only been on the site three days. That's kind of moving fast, doncha think?
    Yes.

    Your instincts are good, IMHO. There's no way I would want to host a stranger I met on an online dating site 3 days ago.

    As for the intimacy thing, don't ask me. I was raised by nuns in the 60s, and I've been married 40 years, so my mores are very outdated to say the least. But still, if you're uncomfortable AT ALL, I'd push back.. and push back some more.
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    That is silly. Even if the guy is just a regular friendly enthisiastic guy who wants to jump into it feet first, he isnt behaving sensibly and he seems to be pushng you.

    Were it me, I would not enjoy myself during his visit, having to host someone I dont know for an entire weekend.

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    Freshstart, Trust you gut. This is hinky.

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    thanks, guys

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    Yep.....I agree with what everyone else has said!! Something's just not right here.......

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    I don't know if it's hinky or not. Maybe he's just a lonesome guy with a hole in his schedule and anxious to get a head start on the competition.
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    Three days? Run in the opposite direction!

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    Yeah, I thought about that too, Alan, but it's just too drastic too soon. Why not spend more time just talking online...or even a "real" conversation on the phone? If he continues to sound really good and credible, then reconsider.....but after a while of getting to know him more. Then again, you can fool lots of people with just words.

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