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    Senior Member iris lilies's Avatar
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    He wouldnt have really come to visit you, OP, unless you sent him travel money plus money for "extras" and that would only be if he sussed out that you HAD some money to toss around.

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    That was a site for larger women and almost all of the men lived far away. I don't like that. I decided to try Plenty of Fish which has tons of locals on it. I think with online dating it's best to stay local, email and talk a few times and then meet for coffee in a public place. Don't give out your real email or phone number. And there's no pressure because it's just coffee and you haven't spent ages emailing or talking about personal stuff only to meet the guy and you have no chemistry.

    I have my first coffee date Weds with a sweet sounding guy but I don't think we'll date, we'll probably just be friends. He's not looking for a relationship and I am so I put him in the friend zone. He was agreeable to being friends and he picked a place that's public and we;ll each drive there. I figure he's a good no stress practice run.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iris lilies View Post
    He wouldnt have really come to visit you, OP, unless you sent him travel money plus money for "extras" and that would only be if he sussed out that you HAD some money to toss around.
    he wouldn't have got much, that;s for sure!

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    Local is good. You don't have to worry about hooking up with a Nigerian scammer prince who has mysterious problems accessing his own money.
    Last edited by JaneV2.0; 2-13-17 at 9:33pm.

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    Most of my friends met their spouse or partner through online dating. On average they had about 16 dates before they found the one. 20 years later all of them are still together. They were between the ages of 40-50 when they were all looking after divorces.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JaneV2.0 View Post
    Local is good. You don't have to worry about hooking up with a Nigerian scammer, er prince, with mysterious problems accessing his own money. (Oh, how I wish we had strike-through.)
    We do. No we don't. Yes, we do.

    It's the last 'ABC' icon on the 'Go Advanced' page, or you can manually do it with 'Strike' - '/Strike' bbcode.
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    Got it--thanks!

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