I had my first Plenty of Fish guy. Perfectly nice Egyptian man wanted to go to the Cheesecake Factory on Weds. I try to generate chat but he was shy. So I just keep asking him questions, it began to feel like a job interview. He wanted to go out Friday but could not think of a single things to do, I suggested a movie and he said he doesn't like the movies. So I suggested we go t his fav restaurant, Chili's even though I really don't care for it or so many chain restaurants. is interests are few: reading the paper and watching horror movies on tv. I realized I would never be content with that. I need a man who reads, likes plays and independent film, likes to do stuff. So I Dear Johned him very nicely. Too nicely, I got 12 texts from him begging to be friends, please see him once a week, etc. That was last night, then 4 more today. It was like I was stepping on a puppy's head, I felt do bad.
Bachelor #3 is from the UK, but lives here, handsome, good job. His wife died in a car crash and he has a 10 yr old son. he starts sending pages long emails about love at first sight, destiny, all this flower-y crap you don't say to someone you've never met. Thank God we switched to texting so no more pages and pages about how certain he is that I'm the one. So he's flying out of town last night so I asked who watches his son. He goes, "I told you, he lives with his grandmother in the UK. But she is getting sick that's why I need a good wife and good children for him to be around." WTH, he did not tell me that! Who leaves their little boy behind when he's lost his mother? Plus, he was always asking questions about my health (I am being upfront with the I'm not up to par with everyone I meet and disclose I have not been cleared for work), what am I eating (I'm fat) like he wants to make sure I really am slimming down. He even asked me what heart meds do I take for the POT syndrome! Now it all makes sense, I am being interviewed for role of mother to his child. Not cool at all. So I'm going to have to Dear John him. I don't know if I physically could take care of a 10 yr old and I'm not sure I want to. Is that too cold? I wouldn't mind if I got to know someone well and I eventually became close to his kids but I am not looking to be an insta-wife and mom.