I'm posting to remind everyone about FMLA. Recently a member of our department had their father die after a very long decline. My co-worker and a few of her siblings who lived nearby were the primary caretakers. She was working full-time and caring for her father part-time for many months.
Finally when he was approved for hospice care (prognosis is less than 6 months to live) then she realized she could take FMLA. Of course that is unpaid leave, and she is a single-person household, but it was something she was willing to do.
Ironically, her father passed away that week right after she received approval.
My point is that I wish we had all thought of it sooner as an option for her. She stayed on top of her workload but took every single vacation day as care-taking time for her dad. She looked very tired towards the end, but now that 2 weeks have passed since the funeral she's just beginning to look like her old self.
Please: if you know anyone in this situation encourage them to take advantage of FMLA.