This article is worth a read.
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine....html#comments
So much of what the author says has been my experience and my observations with other men as we got zooming into middle age. Though my experience as a divorcee might actually make my loneliness more profound.
There certainly is something deeply uncomfortable about admitting I am lonesome.
There is also something deeply uncomfortable in those to whom I admit my loneliness. It actually makes others withdraw more rather than reach out more.
Though I will say I am trying to figure a way to take advantage of his idea for reversing this awful trend.