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    Accepting people for what they are...

    Shocker!

    I have had a hard time my whole life with accepting people for who they are. Sometimes I would try to change them (and even succeeded in a number of attempts). Other times I would just sign the person off as a lost cause. Other times I'd get on their case and drag them through the mud a bit.

    But perhaps it is my descent into middle age or perhaps it is learning a thing or two over time; I happen to think I am learning to accept people for who they are.

    I will confess that this does not feel good. It makes me feel distant from most people, like I am observing them from outside their fish bowl.

    I find myself saying things like:
    "They're just very provincial" or "Most people are willfully ignorant" or "This person and I differ; they are probably wrong; but nonetheless we differ" or "This person is like a rat in a cage" or "this person is like a hamster on a wheel" and so forth.

    I hold my tongue now and merely think what I am thinking rather than say it. This is maybe my emotional reaction to a world that is incomprehensible to me and also out of my control.
    I came from a real tough neighborhood. I put my hand in some cement and felt another hand." -- Rodney Dangerfield

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    It's the serenity prayer - "accepting what I can not change"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tammy View Post
    It's the serenity prayer - "accepting what I can not change"
    Ha! Yeah. I can actually appreciate much of the sentiment of that prayer.
    I came from a real tough neighborhood. I put my hand in some cement and felt another hand." -- Rodney Dangerfield

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    I'm not sure you're accepting them for who they are. I think it might make you feel distant because you are accepting that they are who they are, and then writing them off.

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    UA, if you continue on your path to conservatism, you'll need to realize that if you want people to accept you for who you are, you have to do the same.

    I'm enjoying watching your journey and rooting for you as you get closer to home.
    "Things should be made as simple as possible, but not one bit simpler." ~ Albert Einstein

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alan View Post
    UA, if you continue on your path to conservatism, you'll need to realize that if you want people to accept you for who you are, you have to do the same.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alan View Post
    UA, if you continue on your path to conservatism, you'll need to realize that if you want people to accept you for who you are, you have to do the same.

    I'm enjoying watching your journey and rooting for you as you get closer to home.
    If he turns into Ayn Rand I may have to just write him off...

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    Quote Originally Posted by jp1 View Post
    If he turns into Ayn Rand I may have to just write him off...
    I don't get the sense that he hates women enough to become Rand.

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    True. If he becomes Ron Paul i'd probably be okay with the change.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jp1 View Post
    True. If he becomes Ron Paul i'd probably be okay with the change.
    If he becomes Rand Paul I'll marry him.

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