Originally Posted by
Yppej
I am way past 30 and some of the bad boys still appeal to me. Because of their own shortcomings they are nonjudgmental, because of their records their employment options are limited so to compensate they have developed strong people skills and are warm and engaging, and because they have spent time in some rough places including jail they are flexible and don't sweat the small stuff. They are grateful for little things like a car ride somewhere because their assets are limited. But no they will not change - without professional help cannot change in most cases - and someone without their baggage who has or can develop the same personality traits would be ideal, but those baggage-free types are usually married by middle age.