So, I've been really crazy busy this month with no end in sight. I have in-home interviews that are putting some stress on my car. So I told DH that i need to get my car looked at to make sure the oil/filters/tires/etc are all good to go.
He jumps up and is happy to help because he "sits with his thumb up his a$$" every day (his words, not mine).
He's gone for a while and when he comes home he proudly proclaims that not only did he get my car serviced, but he had it cleaned. Not only did he have it cleaned but he gave away a box of Girl Scout cookies I bought on Sunday, a floppy sunhat, and my dress boots that were in the back seat, a full roll of wrapping paper I just bought for GS's birthday.. and who knows what else. It makes me wonder what else he threw out, because frankly, yes, my car was a bit cluttered, but he probably threw out toll receipts, gas receipts, and who knows what else. I freaked out because I have interview materials from the UK that I had in the car and he DIDN'T throw THOSE away, but overall, it was disconcerting. I felt he didn't respect me enough to simply call or text and say, "Hey, I'm cleaning out your car--do you want those boots? That hat? That wrapping paper?"
Am I overreacting? If I'm freaking out about him giving/throwing away my stuff without asking is that a red flag for hoarding?
Believe me, it's not ruining my day. My car needed to be cleaned. But just the idea that the took it upon himself to decide what I needed and what I didn't was upsetting to me.
So, do I give him a kiss for cleaning up my car or a punch in the jaw for throwing out my stuff?