Does he do stuff like this often? Because I would immediately think "dementia" or something--it's such an odd/inconsiderate thing to do. Is he taking any (prescribed) drugs that could cause him to behave irrationally?
It would bother me quite a bit if DH did that without asking. Easy enough for him to put all that stuff in a box and bring it in the house to look through before tossing. But that's me.
Holy hell, if my DH threw away a pair of my boots he'd know that he deserves whatever's coming at him!
My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far today, I have finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already!
I cannot imagine my DH doing this, but if he did, I would be really angry.
I would be pissed. Anything dirty/damaged is fair game I suppose, though I would still appreciate my spouse leaving it up to me to discard- but throwing out brand new stuff is just really weird.
My honest opinion is that you ought to let this go. Was there any real damage?
“I came from a real tough neighborhood. I put my hand in some cement and felt another hand." -- Rodney Dangerfield
I'm torn on this one. I'm very much a 'place for every thing and every thing in it's place' kind of guy. And SO is very much a 'any flat surface is a good spot to set this down' kind of guy. So I have developed workarounds to keep myself sane. Things like having a 'mail drawer' for SO's mail. No matter what flat surface he sets it on I move it to his mail drawer. He knows this and now knows to look there if he can't find something. But here's the complicated bit. If it looks like random pointess marketing mail I shred it and compost it. Otherwise the mail drawer gets too full and he complains. Deciding what to toss and what to keep is not always black and white. My knowing SO for 15 years helps but isn't perfect. I can only assume that Catherine's DH had the best of intentions. And probably even made mostly the right decisions. So unless he truly messed up I'd probably give him a pass. And maybe even thank him for his efforts.
Let him answer. Thank him for his answer. Then let it go. Can't undo it.
I learned long long ago.....if I am unhappy with something DH did, am I going to divorce him over it? If the answer is no, I ask to talk about it but I don't get angry/grudge about it. Humor keeps us married without a doubt!