I agree with a lot of the things that upset you, but I think it's because we are old.
When I was a kid there were shops downtown. Then they built a mall in my hometown. When I was a teenager, we all hung out there. Downtown became a bunch of vacant buildings. After I left, they built a bypas. The mall died. It became almost vacant and badly lit. People were killed. The mall was torn down. Now it's a grassy field. Downtown didn't recover - it's lofts. My cousin's high school is a field too. The field on the way to my cousin's high school is apartments. My mom drives 20 minutes to shop at the wallmart built on ground that used to have shotgun houses with no plumbing.
Maybe be you could move there - housing is really cheap. They are still burning it down. My great grandparent's farm has completed the cycle from open land to farm with house to farm without house to open land. It only took 130 years.