So if you want the person to come to you it has to be someone that lives close or it won't happen. You are putting so many boundaries on this that I don't see how it will work. Are you willing to go to their house too? I think you find people exhausting because you have a unique personality so someone has to be the right fit. I have a hard time understandng that it is hard to make good friends as I have lived in 5 states and never had an issue. However, it takes work to make that happen.
This why I like to do volunteer stuff and meetups. That expanded to some friendships and activities outside of that around a particular event I do weekly (and we do usually hit up a bar afterwards). Enough so that email was getting too complicated to announce or organize events so we set up an email group.Originally Posted by Chicken lady
The thing is, though it sometimes can be tiring, it's something that has to be worked at. Very true it's "building relationships".
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Yes. Or someone who is interested enough in the farm thing to make a slightly longer drive.
Maybe that's why I don't have friends. Maybe it won't work.
maybe. Depends on where their house is and how interesting to me it is.
Probably.
See your previous sentence.
And, what do you mean by "takes work"? If you mean "you have to do a bunch of stuff you don't want to do/act like somebody you aren't" I have enough of that. I can "socialize" with other humans under those conditions any time I want. Change that - any time I have to, I don't ever actually want to. I can be charming. I go to events with dh for work or with his work people and then wives like me and then we have to get together as couples, or dh encourages me to pursue the "friendship": "she likes you." - no, she likes my wife act. Then I get worn out by the social obligations and convince him to fade back to just guy stuff or she actually gets to know me and quietly fades away and I am happy to let her.
The whole point is that I would like a couple of actual friends who don't require that. 2 would be plenty as long as they were each available around a dozen times a year.
I would be your friend, that sounds perfect to me. I could bring my crochet or celtic knot work I am drawing. I would even love to pick berries. Then I would have a point where I needed to go, and for you to not take it personally that I did not move in or call you daily, and that would be great.
I don't think you are the person who lives in Colorado however, there is someone not really close to me but in the state I think.
it sounds good to me, I also like to take long walks (really I do).I want to know people who can come by on short (or maybe a week) notice for a few hours to either do a specific activity (pick berries, make jam or cheese, swim) or bring their own entertainment (you work on your project, I'll work on my project, we'll talk, you can borrow my toys to work on your project) and then leave.
I totally like the sedate stuff, but introverts and their quiet (boring to most people) past-times are not typical for sure.
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No, I live in Ohio. But yes Zoe Girl, I think you would be a good friend.
Okay--I started my own cat club and also a religion and a political party. But people don't want to get involved . But yeah---I can understand that.
okay----i have been able to continue corresponding with the girl i used to "stalk" when she was 15, in ak. shee doesn't seem to mind, though my best buddy Al would predict that any day now, i'll be served with a 'straining ordeerr to cease-n'-desist. yup. well, Al, does have a very(X4444) limited perspective--he married the first little ol' gal that crossed his path, and they been together ever since. which, is kinda atypical, these days. but yeah--my online hs friend is now 70 but still youthful. yup. plus---a pretty good influence, on mee. so, there's that. i usta get out my high school annual, and look at her sophomore "mugshot" every now and then, and o' course--track her movements when puters' came along. but yeah---she has nearly perfect spelling & punctuation, texting on a cell phone! how do you kids like that?
okay----this whole thread has kinda shed some light on perhaps WHY you have attractive, intelligent schoolteachers who make the mistake of "dating" their students. and, much like people who use illicit drugs, it may be that only a minority of offenders ever get in trouble for it. think about it. one word: proximity. wait--two words: frequent proximity. hope that helps you some. thankk mee.
okay----case example of outrageous deviant behavior. this happened like 35 years ago---a guy in his 20's was an HR on a college campus, here, where there are copiu/s numbers of hot, rich, intelligent coeds. (i've worked there as a janitor, so i know) yup. but what did he do? he became completely infatuated with a local tee-vee newscaster, and commenced stalking her. i mean literally; the outcome was, he broke into her apartment several time, and lay in waiting for her to return home, late at night. But see---she out foxed him; she brought along her good ol' boy constuction-worker bf, who was carrying, and discovered the would-be attackker, who was fatally shot, as he tried to make his exit. end of story. the newscaster moved to doo-doo town, the good-ol-boy is building fine homes in suburbia, and the stalker has his last resting place over in cabool. he had the same last name as BTK, by the way. isn't that a-may-zeen? truew story, tho. but yeah---the study of BTK's ancestry is kinda intriguing. it's already been done, BAFIK, no books have been written. prolly would cause a backlash. btk's paternal gp's were cousins, and i believe that his great-greats were, as well. prolly, the newscasters' stalkler and would-be assailant was a member of the same clan. quite likely. i make that assumption on the basis of proximity. yup. how do ya like that?
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