So if you want the person to come to you it has to be someone that lives close or it won't happen. You are putting so many boundaries on this that I don't see how it will work. Are you willing to go to their house too? I think you find people exhausting because you have a unique personality so someone has to be the right fit. I have a hard time understandng that it is hard to make good friends as I have lived in 5 states and never had an issue. However, it takes work to make that happen.