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    Quote Originally Posted by KayLR View Post
    My mother just passed away May 20. We are in the process of cleaning out her house, too. So far it's been an ok process between all the sibs.

    Since I am the one who has always done genealogy, they keep bringing me stuff they think I'll want to save. Some of it is helpful, other not. One thing has me a little befuddled. It's a family Bible from my dad's side of the family----from 1850!! It's about 5 inches thick, heavy, musty and stinky. There are names and dates written (beautifully) on a few of the back pages. I can simply scan those pages, but I feel kind of weird about just throwing it away. What would you do?
    Well, depends on how musty it is, and it depends on how much other stuff you keep from your family.

    but I would never throw away the oldest single artifact from a side of the family.

    I had an old blanket that was said to have accompanied a great grandfather to the civil war. I researched blankets of that era and it did seem to hold up to that story, so I passed it on to the eldest son of the eldest cousiin while I was scanning photos and dividing up stuff. We had very little to pass on to the kids today and that is fine, but each kid got something.

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    Kay, my sympathies on the loss of your mom.

    I am a DAR member and I know the DAR library has a large collection of family bibles; you might consider donating there:

    http://www.dar.org/library/collectio...al-collections

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    Bumping thread with an update. At this point, no major cleaning out of stuff has occurred since my original post. The only kind of cleaning I have been willing to do is the standard upkeep with the three rooms my dad has been living in: kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and just enough to keep it clean and safe. This didn't cause the dustup I expected from sis as Dad has been spending the last two months mostly in the hospital (which has stopped the hoarding) and now that he has a cancer diagnosis, we have been focusing more on his care and not his stuff.

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    Quote Originally Posted by saguaro View Post
    Bumping thread with an update. At this point, no major cleaning out of stuff has occurred since my original post. The only kind of cleaning I have been willing to do is the standard upkeep with the three rooms my dad has been living in: kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and just enough to keep it clean and safe. This didn't cause the dustup I expected from sis as Dad has been spending the last two months mostly in the hospital (which has stopped the hoarding) and now that he has a cancer diagnosis, we have been focusing more on his care and not his stuff.
    The priority of basic safety and cleanliness makes sense. It can be a lonely process but good for you for doing this.

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    I hope everyone is taking a lesson from this. Ask your kids if they want any item of yours. Unless it is something you use everyday just give it to them. Keep decluttering and cleaning. I imagine most of our kids want little. One DIL told me as an only child she knows she will have to deal with her moms stuff and it already overwhelms her.

    We have very very little excess but in one of my closets are two big bins of old computer wires and so on. DH is afraid he might need them. I am thinking most is very outdated and should go. Oh well, not enough to cause discord about.

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    I have given things to my kids that they wanted. I have gotten rid of so much that my things will not burden anyone when I die. I think it is a great idea to just focus and keeping your Dad safe and clean. Once he passes then the real work will begin.

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