I wasn't sure if this should go in community, or organizing, or here, but I decided that at it's core it's a mental health issue.
i found a bulletin board focused on hoarding that is not all filth and despair! It has people that are at various stages of recovery and also people who are impacted by hoarders. Best of all it has a daily goals thread.
the board is less active than this one, but enough that I can get some regular reinforcement without imagining poor UA gritting his teeth. I think it will help me get back in gear as I have been fairly stalled/coasting for a while and was starting to worry about backsliding.