I have a phone message and text messages from 2 people with attacks of rudeness today. I needed a lot of time to calm down so it is after 8 pm and I have not answered either one of them.
Person one is a teacher I have been friendly with. She is about my age, having a really rough year, and does not have a job next year at this school. I have stopped by her classroom and offered to take her to coffee many times. I eventually stopped that since she did not ever follow up but I was still friendly. So I have a survey for teachers for kids who attended 30 days or more of afterschool programming, this is one of the 2 things we are asked to do to complete our grant each year. I sent it out last week with a letter explaining that if we want more grants this is really important, and I pay teachers who have a large number. I walked into her room today to ask about them, like a few other teachers, and she flat out told me that she is not going to do them. She has things to do. This is as important to me as any of their testing. I walked out with my breath knocked out of me, I found the other 4/5 teacher and she did the 2 surveys in 15 minutes. Now I have text messages telling me I should have given her a deadline, and saying I need to understand she doesn't have a job next year. I want to answer to just get some of my voice and power back, but most people will suggest that I let it go. Short answer is that I understand her stress, I have lost a teaching job, but I do not deserve to be talked to that way.
The other is my staff, she argued with a parent and then said sh** really loudly on the playground, again. I talked to my supervisor and even with 3 days left in our school year I am going to document with a write up. So she texted me, said she had a lot to learn, she apologized. So I have a message to call her back, and I told her DIRECTLY I need my boundary around work time. However she did text me during work hours. I think I am going to have to call her back, but I cannot keep the pissed off out of my voice at this point. I just texted to ask how essential it is, I am going on a run.