"You could learn to love him" was what my realtor said she did with her husband--in reference to my comment that I wasn't sold on this house. I'm still not; I never learned to love it. And I would never go into a relationship trying to force myself to love someone only marginally appealing, either. Thank heavens I didn't have to. Time has taught me to go with my instincts. They haven't failed me yet. Yes, I think arranged marriages can work, if you view them as you would a business deal. Very practical. Not for me.