Originally Posted by
ejchase
I'll put in a good word for online dating.
What I like about it is the directness. The people there are willing to say they are looking for a relationship and what kind of relationship they are looking for. Also, I think if you're willing to be very specific in your profile - e.g. name specific books, movies, and music you like, say something about what you think makes a successful relationship - you actually can end up meeting someone you have a lot in common with.
I just started online dating again after an eight-year relationship. I met two interesting guys with whom I had a lot in common and have been dating the second one for about six weeks. Hard to know where, if anywhere, it is going, but we do have some good conversations.
Yes, you should follow your interests. What I say to myself sometimes is, "If I knew I was definitely going to be single for the rest of my life, how would I live now?" That sort of orients me. But I wouldn't make any rules about online dating or any other method of meeting someone. Just take care of yourself, follow your passions, and stay open. You never know.
Btw, I keep my profile hidden because I'm a community college teacher, and I can't deal with running into my students on one of those sites. Guys only see my profile if I message them. Many guys have told me that women almost never contact them, but they love it when they do, so women out there, consider taking the first step!