I thought I'd better stop whining on my other post and whine under a different title. hahaha
Just curious if you all are happy with the sharing of work with your spouse, that comes with owning a house and property?
I suppose we're all better at one thing than another, but sometimes, it seems to get lopsided.
I quit working outside the home a long time ago, when I had kids. Then when they were out of the house, I had some health issues. DH had a job that seemed to provide enough money, so I wasn't forced to find a job. I appreciated that.
For a long time, I pretty much raised the kids myself, while he struggled with a new business. He was a much bigger help when they got older.
I AM extremely grateful that I don't have to work at a job, but at what point should everything at home fall on me?
Even though both DH and I don't like interacting with service people, etc., I always did it. DH could live with with lots of things not working, or falling apart.
Should the person not holding down an outside job be responsible for everything else? DH does take care of the lawn and weeding......which is no small feat, considering how much property we have, but shouldn't the house matter too?
Yes, I could take care of it all, and call all the necessary service people........but shouldn't some of these things be shared? It would almost even be better if DH said "I know I should deal with such and such, but......" and give me a good reason, but he doesn't even talk about the problems. It would be different, too, if he would take part in calling the right people to fix things, but he insists on fixing them himself (when I force him to notice them)........and then he doesn't get to it.
I don't want to minimize that he's the bread-winner. I just wish he had more interest in the "infrastructure" here than he does.
So......are things fairly "fair" in your house, in terms of who does what? And do some of you feel that you have to be the "boss" who constantly has to direct others?