Quote Originally Posted by freshstart View Post
after seeing that in print, I feel guilty all over again, lol
You should not. The suggestion to name you was made by someone both your parents and you trust, presumably at no benefit to him/her. Your parents are of sufficient mind that they can make their own financial decisions, correct? So they've made the decision. For the sake of family peace I would not go out of my way to mention the decision to your brother. But you don't need to feel guilty about your parents' choice -- or your choice in taking care of them or your brother's choice in not taking care of your parents.