I was innocent and trusted the whole world. Then I became a psych nurse. Now I'm cautious and ready ... but I'm still relaxed. I'm just more aware of people around me and more ready to protect myself.
I don't think this is a bad thing. I'm more realistic now.
I would think that pretending I was living in a Robert Ludlum novel all the time would get pretty tedious. If I avoid the more obvious risks, I like my chances being reasonably oblivious. If a ninja pounces on me in Dairy Queen I’ll just have to live with the consequences.
One of the things that's kind of neat about being an older woman is that your physical self become mostly invisible to the male species.
There are rather ordinary women (and they have to flaunt it to get attention because they fall completely in the average (by average I don't mean overweight or anything I just mean lacking "dangerous curves". But there is nothing wrong with average, it is good enough in life). And there are those a few standard deviations from average on some measures, who couldn't necessarily hide being well endowed in some way IF THEY TRIED, no matter what they wore (and so "don't dress so slutty" is useless advice there). Even *I* stare at a booty like that (and hello I'm female, in a relationship with a guy). For more ordinary women: dress and act super conservatively and you probably won't get that much attention at all applies and somewhat regardless of age.
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I loved being invisible--so refreshing.
Then I became lame, and suddenly, apparently, I'm uber-visible. People rush at me from all sides (especially people older than I) offering assistance. Gah. Yesterday an older woman begged me to let her help load my car with the groceries I had just bought. Then she hugged me. WTF! I'm not a hugger, let alone a huggee. I want my invisibility cloak back!
I think there is a certain age when women cease to see potential in a man and they see that what he is is what he will always be. This is commonly called "The Wall." And for men is happens around 37. This probably explains why it is much harder for me to get a date now, then when I was 33 and I could get multiple dates in a week without trying.
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