Because I have 4 glorious weeks off in July (!!) I've planned a couple of trips up to CT to see my favorite aunts. There are 3 women in my life (in addition to my mother and MIL) who have shaped me and inspired me. They are my father's two sisters and my father's brother's first wife. These 3 women are so remarkable for their class, poise, intelligence, wisdom and beauty. They are all older now. Two are over 90 and my Aunt N is in her late 80s.
So I just spoke to my cousin, Aunt N's son, to arrange a visit. Aunt N had a 50+ year marriage to my uncle, who died of Alzheimer's a couple of years ago. Aunt N has slipped a little in terms of cognitive abilities, and she had a couple of procedures so her son, my cousin, took her to live with him and his wife and two children. He told me that they just closed on Aunt N's house.
I was compelled to look up that house on Zillow that I've been to many, many times, and when I saw the pictures, I really got misty. In particular, Aunt N had built on a lovely little dining porch to her house. The last time I visited her and sat there she was still grieving over the loss of Uncle J and we sat and talked over tea and cookies. That visit had been VERY impromptu. I had been in Boston on business and decided to drive home from Boston to NJ, so on my way down 95 in CT I called her and asked if she was free. I'm so glad I did.
Change is so certain in life, and these moments remind me that you can't do enough to connect with people you love. My son who came to visit this past weekend is huge on that, and he makes it a practice to text and call and arrange visits. Family is everything to him. I need to take his lead a little more.
So I'm going to see Aunt N next week, and I'm hoping to see Aunt M as well, who also has health issues. She's now over 90 but up until a couple of years ago she was taking nature hikes and birding with people decades younger. She spoke in front of Congress on environmental issues. And then I'll also try to see Aunt J who took me in when my parents were on benders. She's also over 90, but just as sweet as ever.
In just a short amount of time, that generation will be lost to me, and I'll really, really miss these three women and I can only hope to live up to them for my children and grandchildren.