ETA: The title is wrong. Can't change it. Meant to put "Meet the Parents II"
Geez. The hardest part of having 4 kids is not when they're children: it's when they are about to embark on nearly irrevocable decisions regarding relationships.
Kid #2: We are all about his life partner. Two thumbs up all the way. No question. No drama. Check.
Kid #3: We just met her this weekend and we love her. Two thumbs up. No drama. Check.
Kid #1: If you recall, he had a very dramatic transition to marriage. He broke up with one long-time girlfriend, only to meet, marry, and impregnate another girl within 3 months. We had no time to get to know her, and were further troubled by her very tragic story of a suicide by her ex-husband. Update: my concerns were unfounded. They are a very good couple. I really like her a lot--she's an awesome mother. Just a purely instinctive good mother. Good wife, too. My son adores her.
Kid #4: My daughter who LIVES the show The Bachelorette. She broke up with a bf we LOVED, and I posted about my grief over losing my "son." She went out for 2 years after that with someone who is fine. But she broke up with him and is now being "courted" by no less than 5 guys. I can't keep up. So she's interested in one guy who actually just broke up with his live-in gf to develop a relationship with my DD. So that's pressure on DD right off the bat. I asked her for his full name so I could google him. I was totally upfront about it.. why not? If I could hire a private investigator I would, but I don't have to because we have the internet. She laughed and gave me his linkedin profile. I don't like looking at LinkedIn profiles because they tell the person that you were looking at them.
So I just googled. And what did I get? A mug shot!! Four years ago, the guy was arrested with a friend for "tagging" a vintage subway car in a major city. On one hand, it's graffiti--not violence or robbery. OTOH, it was only 4 years ago. What was in his head? What was his motivation? Does he have an attitude of disrespect and lawlessness in general, or was this a youthful indiscretion?
So DD asked if she could come this weekend and introduce him to us, not knowing what I found. Do I tell her? What do I do with this information? What would you do? It's a red flag. Otherwise the guy seems OK, has a job as a graphic designer, as does my daughter.
Argghh..