No, they ARE racist, that's not something I'm "imputing motives and attitudes", whatever you mean by that - my cousins will rant about some minority or gays or anther religious group (including other Christian denominations) and then say but it's not like I'm racist or anything!! And I think they really believe that. and of COURSE it's complicated, even in our family dynamics it's complicated. But it's more about CHANGE than real harm, in my family's case. And they love Trump because in their minds he is JUST LIKE THEM, only richer. AND THAT'S WHAT'S SO FREAKING FRIGHTENING. I don't WANT someone like them leading our country! I don't even want someone like ME. I want someone BETTER than I am, than they are.imputing motives and attitudes ("although they deny it") to her relatives as
My first BF, BF#1 we'll call him, grew up in small city trump country. I dated him for long enough to get taken to visit his family a number of times over the course of several years. When I read early morning's description I felt like I could have written the exact same thing about BF#1's family. They were nice people and never treated me any way other than kindly and, as they got to know me, with open arms. The thing I most remember about them was how fearful they were of outsiders. Both fearful in a "it's dangerous to go to the big city because those people will hurt you" way and also in a "the big fancy pants people want to take advantage of us" way. They certainly wouldn't have considered themselves racists. And they would never have considered going to a white supremecy rally or into a black church with a gun to start killing people. But on the other hand their fear of others, and lack of much experience outside their small world had left them with some pretty negative and, in my opinion, unfounded views of people who weren't like them.
yes, EXACTLY. But their acceptance of you did not necessarily mean they were fine with anyone else who is gay. You were brought in by family and thus were part of that family. At least that's how it is in my family. Again, good people BUT. Fearful is a good way to put it. And LDAHL, you really need to stop thinking that just because someone is a liberal means they are always anti-gun. If you knew me, you'd know that my ahem - dainties drawer has a dual function - that's are where I stash the extra ammo I want close at hand. And I'm a pretty good shot, for a liberal.They were nice people and never treated me any way other than kindly and, as they got to know me, with open arms.
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