Different posters have mentioned some challenges with houseguests over the years whether family or friends. I have had house guests and been one.
Two questions to answer please
1. What parameters do you follow when a house guest?
2. What do you wish your houseguests would follow? Need male input here as well please.
Answer
1.Parameters that I follow:
I ask if I can help with meal prep, grocery purchase, cleaning telling them I am a body available to assist wherever.
I ask the wake-up time and if there are any preferred steps to follow for meals, laundry and activities.
I tell the host where I am at all times.
I provide one major meal - restaurant, takeout or special cooking.
With my family especially, I always ask if the time of a visit that I am suggesting is convenient as do they when visiting me.
A sibling has given me good advice - she calls it the fish test or something similar. Don't stay longer than it would take a fresh fish to go smelly.
2. Parameters that I wish to be followed:
Ask me if it is convenient to visit.
Set a duration limit so that I have an idea of the food etc planning and how my other commitments will work out.
Confine your belongings to the room that you have been assigned except for coat, shoes which get properly stored.
Let me know of any dietary concerns ahead of time.
Please respect my private spaces - ensuite bath, bedroom.
Let me know your arrival time and when you will be in for meals.
When you depart, ask if you should strip the beds and bring the towels to launder.
Remember that this is MY house and you are very welcome but my house rules apply.
Have to think some more about this. Waiting to read what others think.