That is basically what you said. That you can define her relationship goals (meet and marry asap) simply by knowing her age, gender, and nationality.
so I guess you said all American women are alike, interchangeable, and after a certain age, uniformly desperate.
What do you mean by serious? You've met her twice and say you don't feel a deep connection to her.
I was thinking the same thing. To me serious means that you've been dating for a while (not less than a month) and have such a strong connection that you are both serious about your relationship and each other. It sounds to me like you're just simply dating.
But dude, why do you keep wasting your time with women you KNOW you won't be happy with? And it seems deceptive to the women as well. Do you share how much of their beliefs and lifestyle you find objectionable?
My thought is that you do it to avoid real intimacy with someone you could be close to.
By the way, fear of intimacy is a real thing. Many of us have it. It's scary to be vulnerable. But so lonely to be closed off. At some point you'll decide if it's worth it to risk real intimacy. Or not.
I dont know, if UL is upfront about NO KIDS, and if she isnt really very religious, and if she gives no fooks about his tightassed opinion on drinking alcohol, then--it might be ok for a while. It all depends on how well she knows herself and how important these conflicts are to her.
I wouldnt assume that a 32 year old Illinois woman cannot look oit for herself.
What are you prepared to give to any partner of your thoughts, feelings and actions,UL? Define what you will give and then what you want from a lifetime companion, demonstrate it in your life and then go looking.
As Cicero said, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.”
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