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Thread: Dealing with extended family guests - advice needed please

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    Senior Member KayLR's Avatar
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    I was thinking along Steve's lines; what does your family do after dinner? Can she lay out a puzzle? Start a craft or activity with kids?
    My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far today, I have finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zoe Girl View Post
    I know my sister's MIL was shocked one year that we set up the turkey and then went to walk a 5K. Everything was really fine, it does not take nearly as much time as you think to put together a holiday in a simple place.
    This was my cousin and her family. They set up the turkey and some crockpots, then went out to volunteer serving dinner at a homeless shelter.

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    Our family is clannish and I so understood your plea. My in-laws are often visiting and sometimes, they don't even say that they're coming. They'd be staying a few days and I'm like - okkkkkkkk.....
    What I do? I just cherish the moment. They're old and almost dying. LOL.

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    Thanks for triggering my continuing approach to this by updating this thread.
    As i thought about what happened, several things came to mind.
    One assumes that life will continue as it always has but as soon as new elements like additional family or technology enter, the dynamics will change. I had to think of what I wanted for the Thanksgiving celebration and family get-together and share my thoughts with them.

    So I set simple parameters that I need in my house.
    - all technology is off for certain hours for family to visit and enjoy each others company.
    - while each can enjoy their wine and beer, it is not the focus of the get-together. No hard liquor. Enjoy that in your own homes.
    - by all means, offer to help and then shut up. I will let you know if and/or when I need help, i will explain how I want that help.
    This is all that I ask and expect plus courtesy and respect in my home.
    Gandhi: Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony .

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