I am the money manager in the household but do not control ALL of the money, just the money I bring into the household and 'common' money. My husband puts an amount in the household account for house and home expenditures which I then disburse but beyond that whatever he brings home is his to spend as he wishes. I am the frugal one and record all my pennies spent and and he just spends with no accounting. Fortunately it works for us.