Yeah, another wonderful moment in making friends. This is actually a colleague at work but I felt we were becoming more friendly. We have some mutual friends and were at a baby shower together that was a nice time. I just found out that when she covered my morning at my site Friday that she talked bad about me and my site most of the morning. Some of it was maybe justified, like I forgot to get little cups for milk for snack. Other things were just weird and not true. So I really need her to work with me on the days there is no school, my other option is to work 12 hour days pretty consistently. Our shared supervisor has told her (pretty ineffectively) to come over and work part of these days.
I just need a game plan to manage this, my positive intention for Monday is affected for sure. I am not going to change her, there is no one to really talk to about it, so I need to adjust. Ideas are welcome, so far I have
* tell my staff who are hearing this to selectively share, I don't really need to know that she talks bad about me
* let it go but not as a victim of negativity but as a way of giving it less energy, letting it reflect back on her naturally
* continue to have direct communication about what we need to, don't look for anything social beyond that