Originally Posted by
Tybee
William, when I was last out there I went out and spent one night at my brothers house (he lives on an island.) When my son told my granddaughter that I would be leaving, she started sobbing, "I don't want you to leave, Grandmother."
The next day she told her mother, "I don't want people to come visit anymore because it hurts too much when they leave."
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Thinking about all your concerns related to how your family is going to react--both good and bad--I'm reminded of one of my all-time favorite movie quotes--The movie was Marvin's Room and Diane Keaton was Bessie and Meryl Streep was Lee. It makes me cry every time.
Bessie: Oh, Lee, I've been so lucky. I've been so lucky to have Dad and Ruth. I've had such love in my life. You know, I look back, and I've had such... such love.
Lee: They love you very much.
Bessie: No, that's not what I mean. No, no... I mean that I love them. I've been so lucky to have been able to love someone so much.
I think your pain and anxiety is coming from the love you have for your family. So if you have to feel pain, maybe feel lucky that you are in a "tug of war" with all the people who want you in their lives, and all the lives that you want to wrap your love around.