sigh, I am learning a LOT about keeping my head about me this year. I know I was freaking out in the beginning of the year about some things, I am still distressed but much better at letting it be someone else's issue.
I noticed that my boss does not get to reading all the things I send him, so I have started to send him drafts or things that have a summary and some of the information to start with. Currently we have a situation where grant money needs to be spent in very specific ways by the end of December. That means we need training provided for our outside partners and we will pay their staff to attend (like the soccer program or the dance provider). I saw we did not have a plan to use this money so I emailed him with my idea to provide a couple short trainings at my site, I have experience and qualifications to do this, and he said yes. He asked for a proposal after he said yes. So I replied with a summary and asked for feedback. Meanwhile I worked to get space, work with providers and their schedules, worked with the grants accountant to make sure I was doing everything right. I sent him a detailed plan of half of the 2 hour session and asked for feedback again. That was the middle of last week. I just got an email telling me to cancel and to make sure I checked with him before scheduling with outside providers next time. He said he needs to understand the grant better (mind you I got the draft in early August and turned around my proposal to spend the money in 48 hours). There is no established protocol because I just worked my freakin' butt off to create a training at the last minute, which will still be awesome, so I didn't know I had to have more than what I have sent. Besides it is just wrong that I scheduled providers before getting approval, I have an email showing he approved and wanted my proposal. He said nothing about what the proposal should look like or include or anything.
I emailed him back, I am using a much more friendly tone. I also sent an email to the grants accountant to see if she could help him learn more about the grant so he is comfortable with this. My providers are super happy to come to this and I have done a lot of work. However I am rolling with it more than I have in all the previous situations. Honestly this is a lot of work, as much as I love training I don't need to be treated like I am trying to get away with something instead of offering something above and beyond.