Practical strategies to cope with being alone?

[Chicken lady]

Did UL say he wouldn’t date fat women? I missed that.

my friend in Cleveland said she isn’t ready to date men over 50 (she’s 47). My dh is 52. i told her “well, I hate to tell you, but that’s your demographic. Personally, i’m a fan.”

[herbgeek]

Did UL say he wouldn’t date fat women? I missed that.

He made pejorative comments about fat women singles. I made the assumption that that means he wouldn't date them.

[Tenngal]

"I am an avid reader, fisherman, and rescue dog enthusiast. I live simply and enjoy minimalism.


I have gotten into traveling recently -- just a backpack and a plane ticket is my style. In the past couple years I have gone to Israel, Cuba, Jordan, Argentina, and Uruguay. I have also been to England, Spain, Costa Rica, Canada, Aruba, and Portugal. My next trip is either Iceland or Panama!


I love all kinds of music -- yacht rock, disco, funk, folk, outlaw country, and so on.


I am looking for a serious relationship that will lead to a life partnership. What I value most in a significant other are empathy, a sense of humor, shared values, and a mutual physical attraction.


Talk to me about travel, your dog, or any book you're reading."

I like it. Gives me an idea of who you are.

[iris lilies]

He made pejorative comments about fat women singles. I made the assumption that that means he wouldn't date them.

He like curvy women.He dates them.

Probably he has an idea of weight limit, as would I in the dating world.He would likley like women who could haul around their backpack on a walking European trip, and not all large people are willing to do that.

[herbgeek]

IL my point was: he has ideals and standards, but it appears to me that he was pointing out (in what I read as a complaining tone) that someone else in a profile mentioned they had particular standards. It seems hypocritical to me about complaining about something, when you do the same thing. I wasn't judging on what the preferences actually were.

[iris lilies]

IL my point was: he has ideals and standards, but it appears to me that he was pointing out (in what I read as a complaining tone) that someone else in a profile mentioned they had particular standards. It seems hypocritical to me about complaining about something, when you do the same thing. I wasn't judging on what the preferences actually were.

Oh ok, well,
I agree that UL certainly has requirements.

[Ultralight]

I'm talking about what you've said you want, not what you publicly post on your dating profile. You've been pretty clear that you will not date a fat woman. You've mentioned a preference for black women. You have very specific preferences on habits and interests. How is that different from someone indicating their preferences on appearances?

What have I said I want?

Where and when did I say I would "not date a fat woman?"

I do have a preference for black women. But I am sincerely trying to be more open minded and less superficial. I am focusing more on personality and values because I think that is what really counts when looking for a life partner.

[Ultralight]

Did UL say he wouldn’t date fat women? I missed that.

You didn't miss it. I never said it.

[Ultralight]

He made pejorative comments about fat women singles.

I challenge you to prove this accusation.

[Ultralight]

He like curvy women.He dates them.

Probably he has an idea of weight limit, as would I in the dating world.He would likley like women who could haul around their backpack on a walking European trip, and not all large people are willing to do that.

My most recent girlfriend was 5'3" and 180 lbs. I am 5'9" and 195 lbs. That paints a picture.