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    Quote Originally Posted by Ultralight View Post
    -Community gardening (I already did this with no success, so I remain a little dubious)
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    Happy New Year's, UL! Glad you're scouting fun things that will bring a little joy and friendship to your life!

    Just want to offer up an idea: As some of you know, I enrolled in a Master Gardener class last fall. Believe me, even though I have backyard gardens, I started out as a total beginner in terms of really knowing gardening. It has been amazing!! (BTW, I little bragging--I got a 97% on my midterm a couple of weeks ago!).

    The benefit of a Master Gardener program vs community gardening is it's more intense. You're going with a goal of not only learning, but ultimately being a community resource. It's really rewarding!

    I googled Master Gardener programs in Ohio and there's one at OSU: https://franklin.osu.edu/program-are...ener-volunteer. Is that anywhere near you?

    It starts in January, so you may be able to slip in. At least in the Rutgers MG class, the cost is 0. You only pay for the materials for a year-long class. It's such a gift!

    This is just a thought. I've really enjoyed it. Yes, there are a lot of old ladies like me, but we also have younger men and women. It's a diverse class, and fun.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ultralight View Post
    I need something like this. So I am keeping my eye out for something that appeals to me. And to be honest, I am keeping my eye out for things that don't necessarily appeal to me but also don't repulse me either. haha
    Good to hear this! I'm guessing you'll find something. You may not, however, find it on your first try. It may take more than one shot or tweaking the idea a little to make it successful.

    My experiences in life make me believe strongly in The Law of Attraction. I have found that expressing myself in an interest eventually brings like-minded people and opportunities to me, which makes pursuing the interest even more interesting and fun. Good luck!

    Also good luck addressing your health issues. That has to come first, of course.
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    I have followed this thread but have been hesitant in making any comments because the nature of depression, in my humble and uneducated opinion, is such that what works for one person cannot and does not work for another. Because of the seriousness of the consequences of getting it wrong, I defer to professionals who are paid to get it right. And so in this instance as in the literally hundreds of instances of my past, when I interact with people who are obviously suffering from anxieties and depressions, it is my way to listen and encourage them to continue seeking professional help.

    I do not come at this without personal experience nor am I emboldened by my professional exposure. I write here out of personal concern for my fellow man. An atheist probably does not benefit from a religious person’s promises to ask God to intercede on his behalf, though I may do that. But I can promise UL that his health and welfare are on my mind and in my heart. The responses to his OP here thus far should reinforce to him that much of the humanity he is a part of daily, truly cares about his right to pursue happiness and have it.

    And so, I encourage him to continue seeking professional help, even though his experience with it for quite some time has led him to believe it is largely ineffective. I have tried certain things for tedious periods of time without success and suddenly and unexpectedly had a breakthrough. And this is what I hope for UL. A breakthrough, a small crack in the wall that he can excavate a hole to crawl through.

    Do not rule out any solution, as far fetched as it may appear.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Williamsmith View Post
    I have followed this thread but have been hesitant in making any comments because the nature of depression, in my humble and uneducated opinion, is such that what works for one person cannot and does not work for another. Because of the seriousness of the consequences of getting it wrong, I defer to professionals who are paid to get it right. And so in this instance as in the literally hundreds of instances of my past, when I interact with people who are obviously suffering from anxieties and depressions, it is my way to listen and encourage them to continue seeking professional help.

    I do not come at this without personal experience nor am I emboldened by my professional exposure. I write here out of personal concern for my fellow man. An atheist probably does not benefit from a religious person’s promises to ask God to intercede on his behalf, though I may do that. But I can promise UL that his health and welfare are on my mind and in my heart. The responses to his OP here thus far should reinforce to him that much of the humanity he is a part of daily, truly cares about his right to pursue happiness and have it.

    And so, I encourage him to continue seeking professional help, even though his experience with it for quite some time has led him to believe it is largely ineffective. I have tried certain things for tedious periods of time without success and suddenly and unexpectedly had a breakthrough. And this is what I hope for UL. A breakthrough, a small crack in the wall that he can excavate a hole to crawl through.

    Do not rule out any solution, as far fetched as it may appear.
    Much appreciated. Thank you.
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    UL-I just want to reiterate that I bet that many of us here think of you fondly and have fingers crossed that you will find new beginnings in the coming year. It is a strange but beautiful phenomenon to me that we have this little community of kindred spirits here that we will most likely never meet yet that we care about each other's lives.

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    truthfully I think UL will find someone (a romantic partner I mean). I fully expect to hear it, but who knows when. that I can't predict. But it kind of seems bound to happen. It doesn't of course fully cure depression for everyone but that depends, it could, but not necessarily.
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    This might help you find an interest?????
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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkytoe View Post
    UL-I just want to reiterate that I bet that many of us here think of you fondly and have fingers crossed that you will find new beginnings in the coming year. It is a strange but beautiful phenomenon to me that we have this little community of kindred spirits here that we will most likely never meet yet that we care about each other's lives.
    Well said, Pinkytoe, and I think it's a pretty wonderful thing. I feel fortunate to be a part of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkytoe View Post
    UL-I just want to reiterate that I bet that many of us here think of you fondly and have fingers crossed that you will find new beginnings in the coming year.
    Thank you. It means a lot.

    Quote Originally Posted by pinkytoe View Post
    It is a strange but beautiful phenomenon to me that we have this little community of kindred spirits here that we will most likely never meet yet that we care about each other's lives.
    I agree!
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    Quote Originally Posted by frugal-one View Post
    This might help you find an interest?????
    https://www.columbusonthecheap.com/events/
    Thanks!
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