I tend to be pretty darned gregarious at our happy hours and work events. Maybe that is seen as hungry?
But I am the instigator of play, the joker. I got us all playing duckpin bowling on Friday night's happy hour. Lots of goofy celebratory dances and poses for strikes and spares.
I have a tendency to use a lot of self-deprecating humor (I mean, the well of material is bottomless!). And much of that comes from my wacky dating experiences.
At work I am thought of "the person who will say what is on everyone else's mind" according to my colleagues who resigned. They respect me as a truth teller but not really as a leader or even as a dedicated professional.
I remember being able to spot that hungry/needy/desperate vibe from afar. I always avoided those people because I knew they weren't interested in me per se. Anyone would do.
Maybe... I like to think I didn't get by for several years of being single constantly looking around and seeming needy. If anything I strapped the filters on a bit more tightly when I had a girlfriend because there still was an impression to be made and situations in which I was around her friends, who didn't yet know me. The "relaxed" part came later.
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. - Booker T. Washington
I can see that. I remember a boss who told me "It's easier to get a job when you have a job" and maybe the same is true for getting a life partner. Thinking out loud, but maybe an aura of "success" speaks volumes: whether it's financial success or success in relationships. "Everybody wants a winner, so nobody wants me." My DS34 struggles with this so much, being an "unconventional" success--meaning he loves his job, he devotes a lot of time to his music and he's inspired by his surroundings. But society sometimes demands a different definition. Doesn't matter. Find that person who sees your success. And nothing wrong with "faking it til you make it"--I've done a lot of that.
I was going to post the Liza Minelli Caberet version of this great song but that's a little outdated, so I'm going to post this awesome version of an American Idol contestant, Michael J. Woodard.
"Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it--every, every minute?" Emily Webb, Our Town
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There's likely something to that; my partner was attached when I met him.
Now that I'm about three months out from my partner leaving, I must apparently read as "happy and not insane", as random decent folks are asking me out, out-of-the-blue. It's very odd, I have zero experience in these matters. I have never been on a date in my life, for instance, if you don't count a few formal "dates" with my partner when we were teenagers.
I suppose I better budget more for coffee in town and such.
Despite the circumstances which got you there, bae, revel in your status as a person worthy of being pursued. I enjoyed dating, but, then, rejection (at least early on) didn't bother me at all and I liked getting to know new and different people, especially after many years of it being otherwise. Yes, budget some more money. It's a good way to spend it, IMHO.
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. - Booker T. Washington
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