Tradd: Sorry things are so difficult at work.
Do you get a match on your 401k contributions? If so, it would be optimal to keep contributing at least enough to get the full match if possible.
I too have been in a situation where the expectations were just totally unreasonable, so I can empathize. I think it would be worthwhile to evaluate what the "golden girl" is bringing to the table. You might be able to learn some things from her and she from you. While you have the knowledge and industry experience, she might have some general administrative or soft skills or other skills that the organization values. In my last role, I had a counterpart supervisor. He & I were very different, but we worked well together and shared our different strengths. I was aware that some of his strengths were more highly valued by our organization than some of my strengths. If I hadn't decided to retire, I would definitely have focused on that area of opportunity for myself.