I've been wanting to talk about this for awhile. Wasn't sure this was the right place, but here goes.
OF COURSE no one should be harassed/abused, etc. And please don't say what I'm saying is "She asked for it". (Well....maybe she did, but unconsciously/unintentional and then had limits that weren't obeyed).??
I always think in terms of instinctual behavior. Yes, we've come a long way baby in terms of trying over-ride instinct, with mores, laws, etc.
But.....what bothers me with the recent "Me Too" movement is that I think many women talk out of both sides of their mouths, so to speak.
I'm glad most of the Women at the Golden Globe awards who wore black (didn't watch it, just saw some news on it), didn't have their boobs hanging out, as usual (and the "don't you just really want me?" look on their faces).
Of course, they still had hair and make-up.
I'm having trouble understanding why women need to "dress up", wear make-up, wear provocative clothing, yet still demand to not be treated a certain way.
For the most part, I think this triggers some behavior in men that they don't want (or do they??) Maybe they want attention up to a certain point, and not beyond.??
I was a hippie in the 70's and came to the conclusion that everything on the outside is unimportant.....so I quit wearing make-up and "dressing up" and tried to always be direct and honest.
It's what's inside that counts, right? I've pretty much remained that way ever since.
I've told women in the past "You don't need to wear make-up" and their usual answer is "Well, you're just lucky your skin is so nice." Huh? And then they say they are not doing it for men, they are
doing it for themselves. Huh? Is it all just a matter of buying into the notion that you're not a decent person if you don't look a certain way? And was this put out there to just make a lot of money by the skin/cosmetic/clothing industry? I find it all very unfortunate.
And all these women celebrities who expose themselves at the other awards ceremonies.........what do they think about themselves doing that??
I'm just trying to understand behavior. It seems to me to be a trap that they are or aren't aware of.
What complicates everything is the notion that women must look a certain way..........clothes, make-up, etc. It drives me crazy. And it just seems totally in denial to not appreciate how the way they dress can be a come-on to the men around them.
Again......there's no excuse for a man to continue to bother a woman who says NO..........but I do have a lot of questions........