Originally Posted by
gimmethesimplelife
What terrifies me (the verb terrify is not a strong enough word to convey my fear regarding this topic) is that :
A). I most certainly believe there are women coming forward with claims of legitimate sexual harassment that I believe should be punished to the full extent of the law, vs.
B). There are more than just a few random scattered instances of claims of sexual harassment/abuse brought forward being proven as fraudulent or false.
And then there is a recent quote online of some feminist stating that if a few innocent men pay though this recent mania, this particular feminist has no problem with it. Chilling and seriously makes me question the validity of citizenship in any English speaking country - though to be fair, things are worse for men (in this one regard) in Canada, Australia, and Great Britain than they are in the US and I've even say to be even yet more fair, things are worst for men regarding this issue in Spain and India. (In India a woman can call the police with a claim of sexual abuse/harassment with no proof ever required and not only the man but the MAN'S FAMILY MEMBERS go to jail. Once again, no proof required).
As I see it, it is certainly not wrong for cases of sexual harassment/abuse to be prosecuted and taken seriously......only problem is these days there is no filter for any woman with a grudge against a man for whatever reason. In the United States a woman is free to ruin a man's life if she pleases with a simple phone call and a simple lie to the police. No proof necessary for a permanent arrest record and the resulting income/reputational/career/social network loss. And in cases where men have been discovered to be innocent of any such claim/claims, the women in question often is not punished. Unacceptable in my book. I'm OK with being a second class citizen based on the virtue of my being born male, but this coupled with a lack of socialized medicine for all? It's just too much to bear.
What is good about this though? If anyone is interested, do some googling and you can find that more and more (though it's not a tsunami quite yet) men of Western countries are perma parking it overseas - Southeast Asia being quite popular - to get out of countries where the deck is so evilly stacked against men with the extra insult of the high cost of living. Don't be surprised if in the future, more men that women would consider marriage material bail due to terror of ambiguity of the laws and the realization that for men, guilty as accused until proven innocent is the law of the land.
Though it's not the same reason I agitate against America, it certainly is a valid reason to bail not only on America but on the English speaking world in general, and I support 100% any man fed up and willing to flee to relative safety and out of countries where men are auto-treated this way.
As to the new rules at my workplace, this is only about this company trying to protect itself against any liability......and this is going to spread, too, as not only are men terrified now, but so are corporations - the laws are too ambiguous and corporations naturally are seeking to avoid cash outflows via legal settlements/increased insurance premiums.
It's horrible that society has come to this but the silver lining - more and more men will be questioning if remaining in a country where their freedom is at risk via a telephone call from a member of the opposite sex with an ax to grind is really in their best interest, and what's in it for them for accepting this risk? More will leave - and not just the US but Canada, Britain, and Australia, too. Matter of fact, there is a bit of a man drought in Australia as many Australian men have left due to these issues already.
Funky world we live in. I advise two backs packed at all times and a valid passport and a running plan, once again at all times. This level of risk is just not acceptable, especially just for being born male. And ladies, I really don't have anything against you - and I don't believe all your claims are bogus, either. I don't auto-disbelieve you - what I am saying is what puts men at risk is the lack of a filter of how to separate genuine from false claims, and the fact that these days proof does not seem to be required before life altering damage/consequences enter an accused man's life. It's just too much to accept and tolerate - even if socialized medicine were part of the package, which in the US as we all know, human life is not worth socialized medicine. Just far too much to expect a thinking male to accept.
But on the other hand? Call me schizo here - I fully support the upcoming women's marches around the US and I've said more than once, I don't auto-disbelieve claims of sexual harassment/abuse. Rob